The Hardest Test: Terrifying Alzheimer’s took middle child first
Her daughter hadn't given a reason for moving home after just two years in
"I think she came back from
But it wasn't evident on the
Smitty's mother had died in a sanitarium in
The disease is rampant in the Minarik family. Anyone whose parent had the mutation that causes early onset familial Alzheimer's disease has a 50-50 chance of having it, too. And virtually everyone with the mutation will get dementia, usually in their 40s.
In the worst possible roll of genetic dice, all three of Mary Kay and Smitty's three children inherited the mutation.
Gingerbread homes and warm memories
Born in 1963, the middle of the three Minarik children, Beth was the first to get sick -- and the first to die.
She was self-confident, romantic and a daddy's girl. When she bought a house on
She loved to have her nieces over for 'girls nights' sleepovers at her house, where every Christmas she'd made a gingerbread house that was the definition of sophisticated perfection.
"She was my favorite aunt,"
When she became a teacher, she helped a group of students from
She also taught at
Desperate search leADS to neurologist
A few months after the family returned from
"She asked me to help her correct papers and she opened her car trunk and these tests were all over the place," her mother said. "She told me she was hearing comments that they were going to fire her."
Beth had become forgetful. Then she accused a close friend of stealing her purse and called the police. It was increasingly apparent something was wrong.
Administrators at
"I remember a lot of fights," Mary Kay said.
Beth started carrying a butcher knife in her purse and put a lock on her bedroom door. Desperate for help, Mary Kay contacted the
The nurse told her the person she needed to see was
On
Ahern gave Beth a diagnosis: autosomal dominant Alzheimer's disease from a Presenilin 1 (PSEN1) mutation. She was 42 years old.
In cases like this, "the genetic code is misspelled," said Dr.
A weeping woman walks the streets
Like her dad, Beth never talked about Alzheimer's disease. But unlike him, she did not implicitly trust Mary Kay. Sometimes she turned her frustration on her mother.
She lived on her own for a few years, but eventually failed to pay her mortgage and other bills, and would put random household items in her car and drive around
"She never accepted being in the casita and would not let me sell her house and it was a really good market. But I couldn't sell it without power of attorney," Mary Kay said.
Beth starting having panic attacks and got lost frequently. She stopped putting sheets on her bed and began sleeping on a bare mattress on the floor. Mary Kay went over one day and there was blood all over the mattress and the house. Beth's disease was affecting her ability to use feminine hygiene products for her periods.
The neighbors called Mary Kay to say Beth was walking up and down the streets of her gated community, crying. She threatened a neighbor and then scared her mother so badly that Mary Kay locked herself in a room and called Mark and Cheryl for help.
"young and strong" and disruptive
Mary Kay contacted a lawyer, who advised her that since Beth was a danger to herself and others, her mother needed to act. Mary Kay called police, got a neighbor to assure Beth that she'd look after her Weimeraner, Tango, and had Beth admitted to the psychiatric unit at
Mary Kay got conservatorship and power of attorney so that she could sell Beth's house and handle her finances and medical care.
Beth lived with her after getting out of the hospital, but she grew combative. Her beloved niece Krista, living with Mary Kay part time while her husband worked in
That's when
"It was a risk because she was young and strong," said Waldman, who is now the geropsych director at
Beth did well at
"She would go in and out of the cottages slamming the doors and running very fast. The average age was 77 so to have a 48-year-old yelling loudly and slamming doors -- it was not hurting anybody but most people would want to stop it," Waldman said.
She stayed for 3 1/2 years at a cost of more than
By the time Mary Kay tried to get her daughter long-term-care insurance, her symptoms had progressed and Beth was denied. Mary Kay was able to pay for Beth's care with a combination of Beth's disability and
Eventually, Beth began having trouble walking and feeding herself. One day she could do neither. She needed a wheelchair and soon began sliding out of it. At that point, Mary Kay put a hospital bed in her guest room and brought Beth home.
Beth lived for another month. In her final days, she had a seizure and fluid began building up in her lungs. She could no longer make eye contact.
"The person we cared for wasn't there anymore," Mary Kay said. "Her body was just doing what it automatically does -- it was breathing as long as it could."
Beth died on
By then, Beth's siblings Steve and Cheryl had both been diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease.
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