For many Minnesota seniors, there’s no place like home
At 88, Johnson has outlived her husband, most friends and all of her siblings. In recent months, her legs have become so weak that she relies on a walker and has stopped driving. She is anxious about losing her home and independence, and of becoming a burden to her two children.
"The fear is worse than anything else," she said. "I don't want to be in assisted living or a nursing home. My God it is so expensive. My mind is good."
Finding better ways to support older adults in their homes will become a critical challenge for
Public policy, with
But for all the talk of aging in place, the reality falls far short of the ideal. As Americans live longer, more find they need help with everything from basic housekeeping to complex health issues. The work of keeping them safe lands mostly on adult children or other family members, who themselves are juggling families and careers, sometimes from a great distance.
Johnson and her family are holding it together, for now.
Her son, Tim, who recently got married, brings groceries and takes care of mowing, shoveling snow and routine house maintenance. Daughter
As their mother's mobility declines, her children's concern grows along with daily pressures to carve out more time to help her.
"People underestimate the complexity of the situation caregivers are dealing with, both the medical and family dynamics," said
Pressure on progress
Through years of bipartisan efforts,
With the increase of these home- and community-based services, the rate of nursing home stays by Minnesotans 85 and older has dropped from 36.4 percent in 1984 -- twice the national average at the time -- to 12.4 percent in 2015.
But a rapidly aging population will put increasing pressure on that progress -- and funding already falls short of what many need.
"We need new models of navigation and support," said
Kids take shifts for care
Dementia can take an especially hard toll on families as they try to keep someone in his or her home. As
The siblings already have cared for their mother, Liz, who had Parkinson's disease and died six years ago.
Kelly Martin and her twin sister, Karen, took on much of the front-line duties, holding to their promise to keep her out of a nursing home. Their 86-year-old father, less of a force in their lives, didn't get the same promise. But the siblings are determined to do whatever they can for as long as they can.
"It's challenging," Kelly Martin said. "It's up and down. We're able to do it for now."
Martin, a native of
Known to his children as "Pops," Martin's decline emerged slowly. He left keys in the door, came home late from a simple errand, forgot his wallet. The day he got lost driving home from a job, they took his keys away.
For the past year, the siblings have taken regular daytime and overnight shifts, communicating mostly by text because they're rarely in the same place all at once. The "changing of the guard" brings a swirl of activity -- of people and dogs, personal belongings, even sheets as they move in and out of the bedroom near their father.
Tony, the oldest, brings an electric fry pan for his weekend shifts, when he often takes his dad for drives hoping to spark good memories. Karen and Kelly can work from their father's home.
But all are constantly on high alert. Martin's humming and wandering sometimes interrupts Karen's work phone calls. At night, sleep can be elusive as their father stirs.
"He might think it's
The address of the home is strung above a window in the den, facing their father's favorite chair to remind him where he is.
A measure of respite comes twice a week when their father goes to the
"Families don't always know how to connect to services that they need," said Harris, who leads the state's only caregiver and dementia program tailored to specific racial and cultural communities.
Few housing options
Almost two-thirds of those 65 and older rely exclusively on family members or friends for their care, especially as they try to remain in their homes. This unpaid work saves taxpayers more than
Issues are compounded because tighter immigration laws and low wages have restricted the pool of paid workers in caregiving roles.
Figuring out how to support these families will be critical as more boomers find themselves struggling to manage a home on their own. A quarter of Minnesotans will be 65 or older by 2030.
Seventy percent of older Americans don't qualify for government or charitable programs yet can't afford many retirement communities or round-the-clock care. And if they haven't downsized in their 60s, they are likely to stay in their homes until age 85, when disabilities tend to increase,
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The task force also called for improved efforts to link people to services that could help them stay healthy and independent longer.
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Changes that would make communities more age-friendly -- adding sidewalks, allowing more senior housing, easing zoning rules for "granny flats" in backyards -- face opposition in
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A 2016 state report estimates that state and federal spending on long-term care services in
"Population aging is not just a short-term phenomenon to be weathered," the report from the Minnesota State Demographic Center warned. "Rather, we are beginning a shift toward an older society that will be the reality well into
Families sandwiched
Now, as the pain increases and walking becomes more challenging, the stress is building between her desire to stay at home and her children's concern for her safety.
"It's getting to the point where she needs to think about whether she can live alone," her daughter said. "I've looked at assisted living near my house. She doesn't want anything to do with it. I've offered to hire help. She doesn't want that either. I'm stuck."
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Mertens, 52, is feeling pressed between caring for her mother and growing responsibilities in her own home. She has taken a second part-time job with health benefits after her husband got laid off. Her daughters are active in after-school activities.
Her mother understands the risks. She watched a tragedy unfold across the street when her 98-year-old friend fell and died in her home. Her friend's husband also had fallen and was found days later, after Johnson and others noticed newspapers piling up. He now lives in a nursing home.
As doctors seem unable to figure out the cause of her pain and weakness, Johnson has become increasingly defeatist about where and how she will live. The family remains at an impasse.
"I want to help her. I don't want her hurt," Mertens said. "But it's not that easy for me to drop everything and run over there. I feel guilty about it."
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