|By Green, Kai M|
Ialways knew I was different. That sentence alone isn't quite right. Perhaps I could extend it to this: I always knew I was different from the other girls. You may think you know that story, but that is not my story, either. I never itched to jump out of my frilly socks or my fancy Sunday dresses with matching gloves and tilted hat. I loved Barbie dolls and nail polish just as much as I loved Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and fetching pink worms out of dirty puddles. Perhaps a more truthful statement is: I am always different.
Transgender is an umbrella term that de- scribes a range of gender-variant identities, but as the word enters our everyday lexicon through celebrity figures like
But if we acknowledge only that particular narrative as The Transgender Narrative, we leave a lot of people out. There are transgen- der people who do not take hormones or have surgeries for various reasons, two of them being access (money and health insurance) and desire (not all transgender people want to take hor- mones or have surgery).
I've had so many people-people who I've just met or never met-ask me things like "So are you going to go all the way? Do the full transition?" And they are asking me about my genitals (bottom surgery): Am I going to com- plete my transition and become a real, true-blue dick-in-the-pants man?
After this, I remind myself that these ques- tions aren't consciously rude or ignorant (even though I'd never ask a stranger, "How big is your penis?" or "What size are your labia?" "Tubes tied?" "Testicles all there?"). They wonder how I could be happy in my "incomplete" FTM transitioning state?
Here is the issue: In order to medically tran- sition, many people are encouraged to produce a linear narrative, one that begins with a life of wrong-bodiedness and ends with a life of right- bodiedness achieved through medical and legal processes. In this way, the medical-industrial complex has been useful to those of us who wish to (and can afford to) determine our own gender, but it has also asked that we learn to shape our bodies into men OR women.
When I started hormones, my doctor asked me a series of questions, one being "How long have you felt trapped in the wrong body?" I lied and said high school. To which she responded, "That's a red flag because usually people have felt this way their whole life." But I've never felt trapped in the wrong body. I believe I was born in the right body and it was my decision to change. And I may choose to change again.
Transgender people can traverse the gender binary and still leave the binary itself intact. But we who have been so harmed by this male/ female gender dichotomy (a binary that usually values masculinity and maleness over femininity and femaleness-and transgender people are not the only people negatively affected by this) have an obligation to continually challenge that binary, even if we find a place for ourselves in it.
I challenge myself as I challenge you, the reader, to understand the radical potential of the trans* in transgender. I am trans*. Transforma- tion. I am change. Or, I am always different, and that doesn't signify confusion. I know who I am today, and I hope that tomorrow I will find my- self different. I hope that who I am today does not become all that I can ever be.
Transgender describes many different kinds of people: gay, straight, lesbian, bisexual, poly- amorous, monogamous, working-class, wealthy, educated, country folk, city folk... We come in all ways, and we must not forsake that complexity for the seduction of sameness. Our sameness will not protect us.
As transgender people become more visible, we will begin to see more of ourselves reflected in popular culture. We will find more boxes to choose from on medi- cal and state forms, Facebook and Grindr (male, trans*, MTF, genderqueer, boi...). We might discover mass renovations to public architec- tures-perhaps male, female, and all-gender bathrooms will become the new normal. Perhaps these changes will make it easier for people like me to feel at home not just in my body, but out in the world as well. But securing a place for myself and others like me is not enough. Trans* movements must show the world how it, too, can embrace difference and become different (in all ways) always. n
I'd never ask a stranger, "How big is your penis?" or "What size are your labia?"
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