|By Rachel Bunn and Lindsey Erdody, Herald-Times, Bloomington, Ind.|
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"Make sure that doesn't happen," Cloud said to his partner,
The couple know each other's preferences for details such as when to pull the plug, an open casket versus closed casket, cremation versus burial, etc.
"He's the only one I have," Cloud said. "But I know he wouldn't have a leg to stand on."
The couple have been committed to each other for almost eight years, and in their eyes, they were spouses -- they live together, pay bills together and both have access to accounts in the other's name. But until recently, they didn't have a legal document to prove it.
For three days last week, same-sex couples could marry in
"It's that free thing that's automatically thrown into the marriage contract," Cloud said.
Yet, what happens now with these rights is up in the air, giving newly married same-sex couples even more to ponder.
The attorney general's office made no mention of what could happen to the hundreds of couples who were legally married after Judge
"They're validly married," Drobac said. "A stay simply says, 'Freeze, and freeze in whatever position you're in.'"
There are 600 mentions in
"There are just defaults the law has in place if you are married," Widiss said.
The stay could make some of those rights murky, especially since it's likely that
One of the more well-known rights is filing joint tax returns, but most people don't think about the importance of marriage in the law until something happens. A spouse gets sick. A spouse dies. A person wants to immigrate and join their spouse in the U.S. A couple wants to buy a house or a car. A couple wants to adopt.
"These are things that we actually get to talk about," Cloud said. "We have a learning curve ahead of us."
"We're still so shell-shocked," Cope said. "I think there are going to be a lot of things that we just never anticipated having those rights ... I have a lot of research to do."